So you know of course that the Bates Method recommends relaxation, central fixation, and movement as the three keys to eyesight improvement. I will just focus (hah!) on relaxation now.
In order to relax, the key, the very foundation, that I think most people might be missing is simply that they must become aware of how they’re feeling. You have to realize that you are feeling. You have to realize that you have a great role in determining your feelings because:
- you choose how to sit
- you choose how to stand
- you choose how to slouch
- you choose how to not let yourself rest
- you choose how to respond to events
- you choose whether to hold back or let go
Now I don’t want you to get any ideas from the previous list. But become aware directly of yourself as you read this. And feel. Do you feel like you’re responding to your body’s impulses and messages or do you ignore them?
Odds are that you are numb to a great amount of your body’s impulses. Once you start to ignore an area because it’s painful there, you do not have as good a sense of how to use that area nor what feelings you have there.
Do you suffer from back pain? Neck pain?
Well if you don’t know how to deal with it, why would you spend time feeling the pain? You can just ignore it and it doesn’t really seem so bad. BUT you’re different. You’re here to actually get results because you know that there’s no fundamental reason for you to be in pain, you just need to fix something and it will be better.
I go over methods to improve your body use in my book of course.
That all being said, I want to give you something you can use right now. So pay attention. What you have to do is let go of your body. Let go of your old body that is. Let go of your old physical habits and orientation and mal-coordination and let yourself discover your deeper better more naturally moving and higher-functioning self.
The stress, strain, numbness, and pain don’t feel right for a reason. They don’t feel right because you know that’s not what you’re supposed to feel, but what you might not yet know that I wish to reveal to you here is that you are the cause of your stress and strain and that you can let that go and make miraculous gains of health and happiness and improved functioning.
All it takes is first feeling and then let your body do the healing.
How do you let your body do the healing? YOU STOP USING YOUR MIND.
That’s right. Your mind is obviously stuck (for the most part for most people this is the case). Think about it. When someone tells you to sit up straight and you try to do it, does it ever work? Or does it always still feel wrong and full of effort? How about that shoulder tension? Does doing the same pulling , straining, or kvetching get you to finally being relaxed?
So what can you do?
Stop using your mind to control yourself and give back the reigns to your animal.
Imagine for a minute that you didn’t have all kinds of stupid ideas and b.s. mentally constructed obligations in your head for a bit and see how your body acts. This means for a full minute let yourself do what your body wants to do without blocking it.
Here’s what people do:
100% START MOVING DIFFERENTLY
89% CLOSE THEIR EYES
43% GET ON THE FLOOR AND LIE DOWN
Where are you in this?
Do you start flapping your arms? Do you start moving around? Do you notice that you want to sleep or at least get some shut eye?
Think about how different it is with regards to improving your health. Would you wake up a cat or dog that was sleeping and not bothering anyone? No!
You would just trust that it knows when to sleep and when to be awake. What about trusting yourself?
I want you to know that I have had A LOT of physical stress and strain in my body. I know what it’s like to sit on my ass for 12 hour+ days day in day out for months. I know what it’s like to have a tight neck, stiff back, and tight painful shoulders. I also know what it’s like to make that tension dissolve. I know what it’s like to move differently and discover a realm of freedom that I did not physically have since early childhood. I know how awesome it is to rediscover that in my twenties when I can have a whole lot more fun and have no adults telling me what to do.
And I also know what it’s like to help others achieve the same, and it’s one of my biggest joys by far because there’s nothing like giving people a gift that they truly appreciate and get long-term value out of. Your pain or your pleasure go with you every day. There’s nothing wrong with your body or even your mind fundamentally, but you need to learn new ways. New habits and a new understanding of how you function psycho-physiologically.
You may never have succeeded to get in your body and stay embodied, but after reading my e-book or getting a session or two with me you should have a persisting ability to on your own dissolve all your excess tension bit by bit and reveal the perfectly functioning human animal you’ve trapped inside for so long.